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Dealing with super critical spouse

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John
John
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Dealing with super critical spouse
Mar 13th, 2024 14:43

My male client's wife criticises him constantly and won't stop even when he asks... She keeps pushing him (verbally)... his response is to actually feel physical pain and headaches and then he freezes up and can't think of do anything much along with immense frustration and his brain hurts... This then causes him to want to take ketamine to stop the physical and emotional pain instantly... As he's done several times before.

I've done one drug hypnosis session which took his cravings from 5-8 to zero...

And, I want to design another one for him to cope with her intense verbal abuse or criticism of him and to stay calm and in control.

Thankyou.

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Sarah Barter
Sarah Barter
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Sounds like he ideally needs to part ways as it sounds toxic on her side x

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Elizabeth Sparkes
Elizabeth Sparkes
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I would be looking at the reasons her criticism creates this response in him, and then dealing with that? It sounds like she is triggering some early trauma , probably a critical parent? Perhaps if you did some healing work around that he could cope better in the here and now? (and then maybe take some decisions on how to move forward with this relationship)

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Pauline Hetherington
Pauline Hetherington
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You could also try a script like "SWISH' if you've heard of that? Seeing himself in the 'moment of anxiety', shrinking it down to the size of stamp and turning it black and white then replacing it with his 'moment of achievement' where he sees himself having successfully dealt with the situation in hand. And keep repeating, going to a calm neutral place between rehearsals. If he can visualise he can do it and this rehearsal helps to create new neural pathways in the brain. Ketamine dependence is a hard one to crack though ....

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John
John
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I got him from 5-8 (out of 10) ketamine cravings to ZERO in one session... When he became overwhelmed... Checking in with me each day and it's staying at Zero.

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John
John
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I will incorporate a swish thanks. I'm a master NLP practitioner so know how to do that. Thankyou.

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John
John
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Telling him to part ways is not a professional response. He loves her deeply. She will change by him changing his (what I call the 5Rs) react, respond, resist, reject, retaliate. But thankyou.

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Veronica Banon
Veronica Banon
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Jhon how did you reduce his ketamine craving so much in 1 session? is there a script you could share?

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Sabina Jennings
Sabina Jennings
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He has to hold is boundaries and although his wife initially won't respect them he still must keep them in place, introducing them slowly bit by bit. His response to the wife is such that he is accepting what she says - he doesn't have to and his response of emotional reaction is a form of acceptance. Grey walling ie. no response or adapting a protective bubble is a great technique which blocks the negative verbal criticisms. The ultimate question is, is this a situation of co-dependency however unpleasant? Clearly he can't sustain this situation and is now looking for help. What went on in his childhood and is situation the 'known' for him?

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John
John
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Veronica I will share when I work out how

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Cynthia Millican
Cynthia Millican
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It sounds to me like he needs to read up on attachment styles. This womans sounds like an anxious avoidant person and he is anxious insecure, and they are naturally attracted to each other to work out their dysfunction together. It's toxic and destructive and I wouldn't be trying to help them stay together, but that's just me. And "he loves her" is part of the dysfunction that he needs to heal, not how to cope with staying with her..

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