May 09th, 2021 11:36
To answer your question about effectiveness with certain issues, I think it's fair to say that it will tend to improve over time. So much of what you do as a hypnotherapist comes down to learning what works best for you and your clients, as well as developing little "tricks" and techniques that improve the quality of your sessions. I'm talking about incorporating things like time distortion, to use an example. It's quite a simple convincer that makes a huge impression on a client. There are a lot of little things like that you'll pick up by reading books by other hypnotherapists. I can honestly say that what I do now uses maybe 20% of what I learned doing NLP and hypnotherapy courses. They're great, but you'll just pick things up along the way. For instance, I don't really use Time Line Therapy anymore because some clients find it too conceptual. I still use elements of it, but I've kind of made my own technique out of it. I found that in its full form it took a very long time, created frustration for the client and they sometimes felt "short changed" as TLT doesn't lend towards a very deep trance (or, at least, a perception of deep trance) in most cases.
At first, you'll probably read almost verbatim from a script, and that's fine - you just have to make it not sound like you are. I don't use them much anymore, but I sometimes do and there's really nothing wrong with them. You'll start writing your scripts over time anyway as you realise that there's nothing out there that you can find that will suit this or that particular client.
My biggest piece of advice though, would be to make a decision about what type of client you're dealing with before you start a session. That might sound like it goes against NLP best practices, but hear me out. You'll develop a kind of sense for whether a client is going to respond well to a direct induction and, while you might not always be right, to err on the safe side I would always have a very indirect induction (maybe a nice long Ericksonian one) available and use that if you're not sure. Almost no one doesn't respond to a good indirect induction, but lots of people just don't gel with direct ones.
Be choosy with convincers. While they're fantastic and they help to deepen trance, they can hurt a session if the client feels they've failed. Always, even if they have failed, tell them that they've done exactly what you wanted them to do, e.g. "that's right - you've demonstrated that you always have the choice as to whether you'd like to open your eyes or not". Always start with very easy convincers/tests.
Try to keep your language as Ericksonian as possible (at least at first). While Erickson isn't the be all and end all of hypnotherapy, his techniques are a safer bet than direct approaches. As I said above, I think the vast majority of people will be fine with an indirect approach, but a decent chunk of poeple will NOT be ok with direct techniques.
Also, CONFIDENCE, CONFIDENCE, CONFIDENCE. You won't feel confident (impostor syndrome is an awful feeling and I had it for a long time) when starting and you might even feel almost sick with worry ("am I good enough?", "they'll see through me" etc.) and that's absolutely normal. Just make sure you convey confidence to the client. I focus almost entirely on insomnia within my business and I've helped clients recover their sleep completely without any hypnosis or NLP - purely by conveying my complete and utter confidence that their sleep will improve. I'm a big believer that a client will respond to that confidence and resolve the issue themselves in a lot of cases.
Lastly, the pre-talk is so important, I can't stress enough. Read some books from hypnotherapists and incorporate anything you think is worthwhile in your pre-talk. If you make it clear that hypnosis isn't this crazy alternate dimension that you go to, so to speak, people will be more inclined to think they've been hypnotised. If you just jump in with no suggestibility tests or pre-talk, you make things needlessly hard for yourself. Also, every single session, make it clear that there will be noise around them and that's fine. "The noise can help you to relax" or to "bring your focus back to my words", something like that and then noise won't bother them. Trust me, it works a treat.
I won't sugar coat it, your first few months can be very nerve wracking and hard work. They're also some of the most worthwhile because it's such a thrill when you get great results. Just back yourself and be the expert that the client wants you to be. They don't know you're new, they don't know you might have another job, they don't know you're s***ing yourself, so keep it that way and they'll see you as the competent expert you appear to be. That's all that matters - the client's perception. Use scripts, but speak them very slowly to give you time to change the wording as you go if it doesn't sound like something you'd say.
There's lots more you'll learn, but if you just accept that that's the case and you can be flexible in sessions and think on your feet, you'll be fine. My failsafe if I ever stuff up is to say that I'm going to be quiet now for some time as such and such happens, or such and such change starts to take place subconsciously, so that I can then think about what I'm going to do or say next. If you have hypnotic world on your pone, you can even use that time to quickly get a script to salvage the session if you need to.
Good luck Clarissa, you'll be fine. Just accept that sessions will be a little stressful for you from time to time as you're starting, but that will fade over time as you get better and learn more.