Fear of MattressesSolutions Corner Forum
By Angela O'Neill
Treat as any other phobia. There will be a background where the beliefs have been formed and consolidated. Common with every fear (phobia) will be an anticipated panic response which she will want to alleviate. There will also be a desire to reassociate with the situation (mattresses).
Question what she thinks will happen if she layed on one to find out her greatest fear. In your treatement, she could re-learn how to be relaxed when lying on a mattress and then gradually extend the time she spends on it e.g. reading whilst lying on a friend's mattress in the day.
Since I was 8 years old I had a fear of mattresses and I am 44. It started with a tomorrow world programs showing a dust mite when I was 8. I then had to have 12 sheets on my bed and loads of pillow cases. A few other things triggered my phobia. Ages 12 my uncle died and I was given a new bed but it had stains all over it and found out it was my uncles. I now can't sleep in anyone else's bed but my own. My own is silver mattress so no bacteria and mildew can form to create a breeding ground for dust mites, I use allersave sheets, duvets and pillows. These stop dust mites from living on your sheets. If any of my sheets or pillows get stained I just can't deal with it. If I go to hotel or a friend I sleep in clothes and take my own blanket. I have lost friends over this as they think I am calling them dirty and I was not. I don't think I could ever over come this phobia I have just got used to living with it.
Oh Jonathon there is absoultely something that can be done to help you. Do you have a hypnotherapist local to you? Find one who offers a free consultation to discuss your needs. Together you will able to work through this, you have already stated you know the trigger (tomorrow's world programme), but in reality, any bed you sleep in is not actally going to do you any harm.... but you know this! We just need to re-frame the way your mind has approcahed it. It thinks it is keeping you safe when actually it's making you miserable. Re-framing your thinking will help more than you know! :) Please do look for a therapist local to you. Let us know how you get on. xx
IDK why I just can't deal with touching my own mattress let alone someone else's. Even when I was younger, I would get nauseous when my mattress was showing. I had to ask someone to help me cover it up. Years later, I'm still like that. It's like I get nauseous when I look at or touch a mattress.